心中的千言万语,如何吐露?其实可以把心中所想都记录下来,然后以旁观者的角度去阅读和回应,这样可以防止自己完全被消极情绪所主导,得到一种释放。写出来的好心情,拿出你的纸和笔吧。
Sometimes it’s just one of those days — one those days where you’re just not “feelin’ it”.
有时候也许就是哪一天——那一天就觉得完全不在状态。
You’re usually pretty happy on a daily basis and there’s nothing really terrible wrong in your life but you’re just in a rut and your mood is reflecting it.
你平时都会觉得很开心,生活中也并没有哪里真的出问题,可是你就是觉得哪里不对,这已经从你的情绪中反映出来了。
That’s how my day was going today. Mopey. Unproductive. Annoyed. I had to make a change.
我也经历了这样的一天。闷闷不乐,无精打采,甚至有些恼怒。我必须要做出改变。
So I decided since I wasn’t getting anything else done, I would start writing down why I felt like crap. Boy, did that turn out to be some good therapy. 既然我也没心情做其他的工作,于是决定写下心情糟糕的原因。兄弟,你也发现这是一个好办法了吧。
When you already enjoy writing and then start noting your feelings, you can’t possibly feel more at home.
当你开始享受把他们记录下来并且关注你的感受的时候,你就会觉得轻松了很多。
Here’s how I turned my day around and then got a blog post out of it. Hopefully this will make you smile the next time you’re feelin’ low.
这就是我使自己心情变好的方法,写下来并发出去。很希望当你情绪低落的时候这个办法对你也有效。
With pen and paper, start writing a list titled ‘Why I Feel Unhappy Right Now’.
拿出纸和笔,先写个标题“为什么我现在不开心”
List anything you can think of, as long as it’s actually relevant to your mood. Does it actually make you feel crappy to think about it? Then it goes on the list.
列出任何你认为有可能的原因,只要它和你的心情波动有关系。想到它时真的让你觉得很讨厌?那么它就应该在你的列表里。
When you’re finished (hopefully with no more than 10 things, if that), re-read your list. But the key is to try to change your personality to a good friend. The type of friend that you would want around to complain to who would give you the responses you really want to hear. We need a real sweetheart here.
当你完成的时候(如果可能希望不超过十条),尽可能的去宣传你的列表。关键是要使你的个性更接近你想要成为的那个好朋友。向那些会真心给你答复的好朋友诉说,这种时候我们真的需要有贴心的朋友在身边。
As you’re re-reading as a positive, complimentary friend, cross out the complaints with a different colored pen (signaling another voice on the page) and write what your response would be as the supportive friend. Write what you would want someone to say to you.
当你以一个积极赞许的朋友身份再次阅读的时候,用另一种颜色的笔标记出那些抱怨的话(表示另一个人的话),并且以好朋友的身份记录下你的回应和你希望他对你说的话。
No re-read the responses as “yourself”.
不要重复以自己的身份浏览这些回应。
Smile. You just overcame your negative thought process with a much more beautiful one.
微笑吧。因为你刚刚用了一个非常好的方式克服了自己的消极情绪。
Move on.
继续加油。
I was actually laughing by the time I finished reading my positive responses. Mostly out of shock that it was actually making me feel better, but also because I solved one of my problems with it. (The runner-up name for this post was ‘How I Came Up With This Blog Post”.)
当我读过自己的积极回应后我真的笑出来了。使我感到震惊的原因不仅是自己感到舒服很多,更因为自己把问题解决了。(第二个标题就是“我如何提出这个博客帖子”)
I find myself often thinking ‘people don’t understand me’, ‘why should I share my feelings with people who probably don’t care’, or ‘I really don’t know anyone that could make me feel better’.
我常常觉得‘别人不了解我’,‘我为什么要和不相干的人分享我的心情呢’或者‘我真的不相信别人会让我感觉好一些’。
The reality of it is, as anti-social as it sounds, no one knows you better than yourself.
其实事实是,作为反社交,没有人比你更了解自己。
So if you can be your own friend in moments like these that are more of a petty ne